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1. Relationship is an exchange of energy at the level of thoughts and feelings, and then words and actions.
2. We thought people know only what we speak and do, they would never know what we think, and so we didn’t care about our thoughts. Thoughts are more in number and travel faster than words.
3. We feel low, empty or hollow inside and therefore look for happiness outside in movies, shopping, alcohol, internet etc. These are only stimulants because of which for some time our mind gets distracted from the internal pain. It’s only a distraction not the healer.
4. In relationships we always want love, trust, respect, happiness. Relationships is not about wanting, it is about giving.
1. When we do something for someone let us take care that along with the right action our thoughts are also right. If we have negative thoughts of unwillingness or resentment and we do the right action, neither we nor they will be happy.
2. It is the intention, the vibrations that we transmit, which matters more than the action. Right actions packaged with painful thoughts will only transmit pain, even though we did it for their happiness.
3. Before doing anything, introspect - why we want to do it. Keep talking to the self till we come to the answer that we are doing it for ourselves and we are happy while doing it. If we do things for others, then we may not be happy but still be doing it, and then we also expect them to do for us.
4. While taking decisions, we need to be clear why are we doing it and do we have the capacity to do it. If we ask others to take our decision, they will guide us according to their capacity, but we have to implement it, so the decision has to be ours.
1. Relationships are not only what we do or say to each other, but are built on the basis of what we think about each other.
2. Our thoughts when we are with people or even when we are not with them, are vibrations, and these vibrations travel to them. This is the first level of communication.
3. Our thoughts create our aura. The quality of our thoughts is like the perfume we use. In our every interaction we carry our fragrance with us.
4. Every relationship will first begin with my relationship with myself.
5. If there is a conflict in any relationship, the problem is not with them. The problem is not between us, but the problem is the way we are thinking and that is the only thing we can change.
6. People and situations are not responsible for the way we feel. They are only the stimulus, our responses are the thoughts, feelings and behaviour which we choose and create.
1. Every thought I create whether I am awake or asleep, creates my energy field, and this is the energy I have to offer in every interaction.
2. Check - Am I thinking too much? What is the quality of my thoughts? Whenever I want to change any particular thought, am I able to do it easily.
3. When the quality of thoughts is right, the speed is slow. When it is negative or waste thinking, the quantity increases. The mind thinks too much and we feel that it is not in our control.
4. Let us start building a beautiful relationship with our self. Check what are the CRITICAL thoughts we have about our self. Gently change the quality of every critical thought to acceptance and love.
5. The more we criticise ourselves, we are reaffirming that part of our personality. We want to change our sanskars, and so our internal conversation needs to be positive, loving and empowering.
1. The thoughts that we create are vibrations which radiate. They effect the environment, effect others, but first and foremost have an effect on our own selves.
2. When we are judgmental about others, create hatred or anger for them, we feel it is justified, but the vibrations created will have a damaging effect on us.
3. Let the mind not get entangled in what is happening or not happening the way we want it to be. Let us get work done taking care of the energy being created in the interaction.
4. When things didn’t go our way, we said everything was going wrong. It was not wrong, it was not our way, it was just another way.
5. We create our hurt in response to others behaviours, so we have to forgive ourselves. Forgiveness is healing, and then to forget the incident is easy. Forgive and forget happen together.
6. When we heal ourselves, our vibrations of love and purity reach others and our relationships get healed.
1. When we read and listen to positive messages, we need to make the message a part of our personality. Then when we share with others, they get the energy and the vibrations to be the same.
2. When our interactions with others are based on love and care then tolerance becomes natural and there are no REAL obstacles in the relationship.
3. When we accept someone as they are, then there is no pain. Acceptance means internally I am stable in response to their behaviour.
4. Let us first accept and love ourselves. We have made mistakes but we accept ourselves and stop creating guilt and self hatred. In this way we conserve energy and strengthen ourselves to change.
5. When we accept our self, know our self, approve of our self, then our happiness is not dependent on the approval of others.
6. When we are empowered, then tolerating and accepting others becomes effortless.
1. Relationships are not a challenge, but if the souls involved in the relationship are weak, then the relationship becomes a challenge instead of natural.
2. A baby is an old soul in a new body, who has been on a journey for many births. When a soul leaves the body, everything that can be seen is left behind, but the soul carries the sanskars created by its thinking patterns.
3. When a soul leaves the body, it carries its sanskars of pain created during that life time and also created at the time of death. This is why children have sanskars of fear, anger, intolerance at a very young age.
4. Young couples are already creators of stress before having a child, their negative emotions travel to the child even while it is in the womb of the mother.
5. Like the physical health of the mother is important for the physical well being of the child, the emotional health of the parents has a deep impact on the emotional well being of the child.
6. If parents create thoughts of anxiety about their capacity to bring up a child or about gender preference, this sends vibrations of rejection to the child, and the child feels unwanted.
1. Every thought that the parent is creating are vibrations, and these vibrations are the emotional energy consumed by the child.
2. The personality of the parents has a deep influence on creating the personality of the child. Sanskars of parents become a part of the sanskars of the child.
3. Our thoughts create our destiny. The parent’s thoughts influence the thoughts of the child, and thereby have an effect on the child’s destiny.
4. Let us be creative in our responses to situations and break our old patterns of thinking and responding. Creating a new response will change our sanskars and also benefit the child.
5. The soul in the womb is still not attached to its new body, people or environment, hence the power to catch vibrations is very high. The soul receives vibrations of pain from the family it has left. The parents responsibility is to heal the pain of the soul by creating only pure and positive vibrations.
1. The elder child feels rejected when a baby is born and can create energy of hatred towards the sibling which can stay as a sanskar even after the children grow up. Parents need to heal the rejection of the elder child.
2. Parents while interacting with children however young they may be need to remain in the consciousness that they are souls interacting with another soul; the interaction will then be of maturity and understanding.
3. If children feel rejected, not appreciated and accepted by parents, they create negative energy and this affects their self esteem.
4. When we buy things for children and ask them to be happy, we are developing a belief system that happiness lies in possessions, they will then keep demanding for more as they see it to be a source of their happiness.
5. Guide the child to understand that each one is responsible for their happiness and pain, instead of blaming others for how we feel.
6. We just need to BE what we want our children to be. When we become that, we are sending vibrations along with our teachings, this will empower them to learn.
1. Feeling of rejection created as a child, becomes the sanskar of the soul. Then even in other relationships whether at home, work or friends, the individual tends to feel unwanted.
2. Our sanskars influence our thinking patterns. Every time we respond in the same manner, we are deepening the sanskar. Then the slightest stimulus creates the same response.
3. Our sanskars are the filter through which we perceive every situation, and then create thoughts in response to our perception.
4. Self counselling is to gradually change our thoughts, then our responses to situations will change and thereby changing our sanskar. Thoughts, action, sanskar is a cycle.
5. While we are watching TV, we create the same emotions as the character, and at that time our mind loses its power to create feelings of our choice.
1. Past karma and present situations are different for everyone, but the process of healing is the same -- be aware of the emotion, check the thought behind it, gently counsel yourself and change the thought, feelings and responses will change.
2. To make the children emotionally healthy and happy, the parents need to be emotionally strong. Emotional intelligence cannot be taught, parents have to be that to empower the child.
3. Having our meals while watching TV is not healthy for the mind and the body. We need to take care of -- what we eat, when we eat and in what state of mind we eat, because YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT.
4. To heal the children if they are in pain, parents need to be stable, loving and powerful. If the parents go in pain, then they are only adding pain to the pain of the child.
5. Detachment means to be able to create your feelings independent of the emotions of others around you, which means your mind remains uninfluenced of people and situations.
6. Attachment creates pain and reduces our physical and emotional efficiency.
1. Worrying is creating a complete script of the outcome of a situation before it has happened and then using the story to scare ourselves.
2. By worrying we are reducing our inner strength which we actually require to face the challenge.
3. Everytime you find yourself worrying, stop and tell yourself -- “This story might NEVER happen”. When the cycle of negative thoughts slows down, gradually change the quality.
4. Controlling people and situations, creates a series of negative thoughts. Controlling means we are not happy with things as they are, we want them to change, this creates an internal struggle. With awareness start accepting people and situations.
5. Acceptance means no disturbance internally and then giving them our suggestion, direction or instruction. Focus should be on controlling our own thinking before trying to bring about a change outside.
6. Be aware of these patterns of thinking which drain our energy -- CRITICISING, WORRYING, CONTROLLING and OBSSESSIVE thinking. Awareness means observing, checking and then gently changing.
7. While we take responsibility of everything outside, let us prioritise the responsibility of our own quality of thinking to be most important.
1. Parents need to check their belief systems, because the children adopt the same belief system and then it becomes theirs for life, and their destiny shapes accordingly.
2. Relationships are not labels. Each relationship is only an energy exchange between a soul and a soul, we need to take care of the energy we create and vibrate to everyone.
3. When we communicate we should say and do only what we firmly believe. If our belief system is different from our words, it sends a conflicting message to others, and then we complain that they do not understand us.
4. Our thoughts radiate continuously and words are used rarely. Thought energy travels faster than words. Therefore thought communication is faster and more powerful than words and actions.
5. Appreciate children for their values and let them grow up with the belief system that values work and are appreciated by the world, rather than focussing only on performance to get acceptance.
1. When people have the faith that we will not react but respond with understanding, they are ready to tell us the truth. Dishonesty is used only because of fear of anger.
2. Punishment, anger and reactive behaviour disempowers a child, because we are radiating negative energy. Discipline means empowerment and transformation, so that they do not make the mistake again, this requires energy of love and understanding.
3. Two souls born in the same family carry different sanskars of the past births, and so they are two different personalities. Comparing them and asking one to be like the other, lowers the self esteem of the child. Comparison and criticism disempowers people.
4. Every statement we are making for a child whether in thoughts or in words, he is using that to create his self image, and this will be the basis of his self esteem. We need to use only positive and powerful thoughts and words when we communicate to our children.
1. Whatever a child does, at that time they are right from their perspective. The parents may not agree with the child but need to accept that the child has a reason for what he is are doing. This gives the child acceptance and respect.
2. If the parent always feels that the child is wrong, then that sends a feeling of rejection. At the same time there are friends who accept and that is why the child drifts towards peer pressure.
3. The child then forces himself to do even that what he does not want to do, so that he does not lose the acceptance of friends.
4. Our self esteem has become dependent on people’s acceptance, and hence we are always concerned about what do people think about us. While taking decisions it is important to only remember what is good for me and my family and what is in my capacity, rather than pleasing people to feel happy.
5. Do not impose decisions on children; guide them to take their decisions. Let the decision be theirs, so that they take personal responsibility of the decision and its consequences.
6. Let’s not decide the journey for them. Let us empower them to walk the path, and strengthen them to cross any obstacles that come on the way.
1. Sometimes protection becomes suffocation when we stop them from doing things that they want to do because we perceive that they will fail or experience pain. Love is freedom and support not suffocation.
2. The conflict in relationships is because we see everything only from our perspective. We are attached to our ideas and feel we are right and then don't see the other's perspective.
3. When a child feels that his parents don't understand him, he fears and relationships. He creates a belief system 'People don't understand me', would always blame the world and never heal himself.
4. Protection means to let them walk the path they want and always be there with them, understanding them, not being critical about them, not blaming them and not going into pain.
5. When someone is jealous it means they feel inferior, less deserving, deprived of what other people are getting. If we understand this then instead of feeling bad, we would feel compassionate and this compassion would help those souls to heal.
Thanks to:
Sister Shivani
(http://www.brahmakumaris.com/)
Mr. Suresh Oberio
for excellent questions to awaken our SELF
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